Frozen Dream

When I started writing these, I still had every intention of starting a company of my own. Now I’m considering two unexpected, incredible roles (and also looking at other companies I admire). This wasn’t the plan, but… it feels good?

Frozen Dream
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We’re in Colorado this week visiting Miranda’s family, which means getting a little creative with bedtime books. As it happens, her parents have a copy of Shel Silverstein's A Light in the Attic (like maybe all of our parents?) and we’ve been flipping through it for Zephyr-appropriate poems in lieu of his normal overflowing library shelves at home.

Last night, in a blur of pages, one poem caught my eye:


I’ll take the dream I had last night
And put it in my freezer
So someday long and far away
When I’m an old grey geezer,
I’ll take it out and thaw it out,
This lovely dream I’ve frozen,
And boil it up and sit me down
And dip my old cold toes in.

It’s been a weird few weeks. My squiggle might as well be a black line on a black background.

When I started writing these, I still had every intention of starting a company of my own. Now I’m considering two unexpected, incredible roles (and also looking at other companies I admire). This wasn’t the plan, but… it feels good?

Let’s rewind a bit.

For me, becoming a father has been both a celebration of new life and a mourning of the life I left behind. In conversation with a friend yesterday, I reflected on how I didn’t properly mourn that life (my loss of independence, freedom, flexibility) before the birth of our first child. Instead, that mourning has taken place in three acts.

First, when Zephyr was born—or rather, on some sleepless night approximately six weeks in—I felt the physical reality come crashing down. Life would never be the same. My energy and my body registered the change.

Second, when we sold our Marfa house. As we drove away from “The Dance Hall” for the last time, teary-eyed, I felt my brain finally sense the shift. Seven-hour road trips, spontaneous bike rides, drunken nights wandering the wild, small-town streets? Those were in the past.

Finally, when Bender died a month ago. At last my heart looked back and finally shuddered, sighed, and cried for the life I left behind. Bender symbolized my bachelor days, my Uber days, my travel days. He was there for the formation and foundation of my marriage. He was with us as we moved, worked, bought homes, and built community. And he watched us bring new life into the world, adjust to that radical change, and settle into our new roles as parents. He was the last vestige of a freedom now long gone.

His passing was a devastating loss but also provided brutal clarity. My mourning finally feels complete: I’m now fully present in this new chapter of my life. My body, my mind, and my heart are all in sync.

But what does this have to do with my career?

Until recently, I divided my career into chapters based on where I worked. The Uber years. The Nurx months (lol). The Wheel years. My entrepreneurial journey.

Now I realize that’s the wrong way to think about it. For me, the right way to look at my career (and life!) is based on where my heart is.

Today, finally, my heart is finally in the present. It's locked in with the reality that is parenthood, our life in Austin, the community that we’ve built, and my passions and curiosities that I have stoked and nurtured over the last few years. And with that… I’m ready for something new.

The truth is I'm not ready to start a company of my own. Not yet. The ideas aren’t quite baked. The conviction isn’t quite there. And my heart is with my family, my community, and my roles as husband and father.

So for now I’m putting those dreams on ice. I’m not going to wait until “I’m an old grey geezer,” but I'm finally realizing that the months immediately surrounding the birth of my second child are—in a hilariously obvious way—just not the right time for me.

But what is next? That’s something I’ll explore more next time (and no doubt in one-on-one conversations with many of you). Thank you for reading this far, following my journey, and being a loving, supportive part of my life.

Talk soon,


📓 I’ve been starting the search for a new notebook / planner for 2024, and come across some interesting options. I have a feeling I’ll settle on Shinola’s Runwell Planner, but Present & Correct also has some really cool options.

🎵 Do I need Teenage Engineering’s new audio sampler and synthesizer, EP-133 K.O. II? No. Do I want it? Hell yes. Glad I waited long enough for them to sell out so it’s easier to resist for now.

🛒 I learned about (p)OLY CONVENIENCE STORE through CW&T (also awesome), and I am very confused but also amazed. Their POLYFESTO is really great, too.

♟ We had a couple game nights with family in Colorado this week and I immediately fell in love with Rummikub and the PARKS Board Game. Fun, wholesome, analog. Illimat and Wingspan were also highly recommended, but we didn’t have time to play yet!

🔔 My sister-in-law also has a Woodstock Zenergy Chime and all three of us (Miranda, Zephyr, and me) couldn’t get enough of it. Such pleasing tones.

🤖 New AI image generator Visual Electric has a stunning website, brand, and product. Highly recommend, even if you are just playing around with AI image generation.

🎸 I was turned out to Charley Crockett by in-laws this week and I’m really digging his vibe (also he’s a descendant of Davy Crockett?!).

🌎 Faircado is a browser plugin that helps you find pre-owned versions of whatever you’re browsing for. “A great deal for your wallet and the planet.” So cool.

🌱 I discovered WallyGrow at a local shop in Austin last week and they seem awesome. Excited to pick up a few for our house once we’re finally into a routine where we can keep plants alive.

🍴 The Infatuation just came out with their 2023 list of best restaurants in Austin and there’s a LOT on here we haven’t been to yet (we’ve only been to Ezov and Veracruz Fonda—both excellent).

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